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What Wikipedia thinks incels want vs. what incels actually want

Incel is a sociological term that is short for involuntary celibacy, defined in academia as a common life circumstance.[1][2][3][4][5][6][7][8][9][10] Inceldom is recognized as a medical disability in some countries and by the World Health Organization.[11][12] Being incel is a nonsexuality.

Individual philosophies like the blackpill or subcultures like 4chan culture emerge on some, but not all, forums dedicated to involuntary celibates and go in and out of fashion.

Self-described incels tend to be known as, “dating realists”. In the pejorative sense, the term incel is used as an outcasting pejorative.

Incels are the vanguard of tearing down gender roles


Shared experiences[edit]

Something most women don’t do

Because the definition of incel is wonky, there are a number of shared experiences incels have that are worth highlighting.

Incels generally have:

  • never been propositioned or hit on
  • never been complimented in a sexual way
  • never have had sex without paying for it
  • never been on a date
  • always have been rejected

Shared beliefs[edit]

There are no shared beliefs among incels as a whole as incels are not a community, movement etc. However for self-described incels, the only shared belief is hard determinism.

Sexual frustration vs. inceldom[edit]

Inceldom overlaps but is distinct from “sexual frustration”, in that an involuntary celibate may simply accept their inceldom and not feel bad about it.

Can’t an incel just see a hooker?[edit]

Frequenting prostitutes or being a sugar daddy/mommy does not count as a sexual, romantic, or even social relationship, but rather a financial relationship, as the relationship remains without sex/romance/sociability, but not without money. Even if it did count as a sexual or romantic relationship, most self-identified incels cannot afford it on a regular basis. Also, many escortcels frequently characterize prostitution as not a fully sexual experience as it usually lacks sexual validation. Legalization of prostitution can mitigate the side effects of inceldom but it does not constitute a sexual relationship.

Incels want genuine companionship.

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Love-shy vs. incel[edit]

Love-shyness is the fear of romantic or sexual relationships. It is possible for a person to be both incel and love-shy, and most are both to some degree or another. For instance, a person could originally be incel, then suffer large numbers of turn downs, and eventually become love-shy and unable to approach.

Incelosphere[edit]

Click here for a full list of active incel forums

Life as an incel[edit]

Incels aren’t allowed to develop, creating a list of negative symptoms often including erectile dysfunction and anorgasmia according to researchers at Columbia University and the New York State Psychiatric Institute’s HIV Center for Clinical and Behavioral Studies.[13] An American Journal of Public Health study found that delayed sexual activity, “creates health risks by impeding development of the emotional, cognitive, and interpersonal skills that are crucial to satisfactory sexual functioning and general well-being.”[14] Single mancels (and most single normie men) are supposed to be asexual beings whenever they aren’t paying a woman. They are told that their penis is gross, cheap, and threatening, and that no one wants to look at it. They usually aren’t told that masturbation is healthy growing up and often are told it’s unhealthy. They must never speak of sexual desires around women they aren’t or *are* paying unless the woman is a hooker, which is illegal. To be incel is to be forced involuntarily into public displays of asexuality. This may be one of the causes of exhibitionist behavior in some men, as a revolt against societies determination of most single men as asexual beings.

Chadsplanation[edit]

Normies, when not lying to incels about celibacy being easy, in reality consider going even 40 days without sexual intimacy as complete savagery

Since normies, chads, beckys, stacies, tanners, and brads don’t like to pair up people anymore, they tell incels it’s near 100% incels own fault that they can’t find a partner. So they offer self-help “advice”. Incels are told by normies that looks don’t matter, but normies always are curious about how ugly incels are and assume they don’t take enough showers or get enough haircuts. They tell incels to be themselves, but to pick up hobbies they don’t like. They tell incels that pick up artists are full of shit but that incels don’t have enough “game” to date rape drunk women at bars “pick up women”. They tell incels that they are too nice but also that they are assholes. They tell incels that sexual intimacy is not that important, but they themselves buy and/or create movies and songs about how sexual intimacy is one of the most important things in the world and they get upset if they have a few week long dry spell.

They tell incels that they “just need to get laid”, and also that they “don’t need sex”.

They tell incels that sexual intimacy isn’t a commodity in a game with a reward, but think of male virgins as “losers” and tell incels that they don’t “deserve” intimacy due to their actions. Normies, especially feminist normies, insist that sexual freedom is a sorting mechanism for male feminists and good personalities like OJ Simpson and Jeremy Meeks, and that your local grocery store bagger deserves to be an incel because maybe he went on 4chan once or twice.

Incel forums are disproportionately populated by disabled, non-neurotypical, and ethnic men[edit]

A poll from braincels shows that whites constitute only 28% of that forums population, with the largest racial demographic being South Asian (eg. Indian).[15] The most recent poll by incels.co showed that 57% of its members were white.[16]

For comparison, surveys on Reddit of the general userbase tend to show 80% white users overall.[17] Thus we can approximate that the typical Reddit population is 1.4-3.6 times more white than incel groups. Given the sections on race above, this should not be surprising.

Other characteristics of incels.co users from site surveys include:

78% report constantly suffering from extreme sadness, anxiety, and stress.
82% have considered suicide.
62% have considered surgery to improve their looks.
77% report being healthy weight or underweight (only 23% report being overweight, which is far less than the general western population average).
57% report receiving a medical diagnosis labeling them as non-neurotypical or having a physical disability that impairs their normal daily functions.

Academia[edit]

Inceldom was first academically recognized as a sociological phenomenon by the Donnelly Study. The Donnelly Study defined incels as all adults who want to have a willing sexual partner of the gender that they are attracted to, but cannot find one for six months or more.

Media[edit]

Contrary to perceptions in the media, incel is neither a political movement nor a community/subculture, but a descriptive academic term for a gender-neutral life circumstance. Therefore, incels do not share a belief system, especially not those who do not self-identify as incels.

No mass murderers have been users of incel forums. Neither 4chan nor PUAhate have self-identified as incel forums, even though some incels use or used those sites.

Things self-described incels get wrong[edit]

Incels don't have a belief system, but self-identified incels on forums in 2020 are often wrong about things, including:

  • That particularly masculine faces are attractive to women, which is wrong[18]
  • That all women are having tons of promiscuous sex all the time (when its more likely a growing minority of women, while sexlessness is also increasing among women)
  • That there weren’t tons of incels before the sexual revolution (there were) (up to 75% of men in their 20s in the 19th century in the West eg[19])
  • That mildly or moderately short men don’t get partners, which is wrong
  • That personality doesn’t matter, when it actually matters quite a bit in relationships[20]
  • That cucks are not confident (usually portrayed as emotionally defeated), which is wrong[21]

Synonyms for incels[edit]

There are many synonyms or near-synonyms of the term incel. For the mass noun version of synonyms, click on synonyms of inceldom. For gender-specific words see mancel or femcel. Synonyms of incel include:

See Also[edit]


References

  1. journal|title=Involuntary Celibacy: A life course analysis|url=http://cda.morris.umn.edu/~meeklesr/celibacy.html%7Cjournal=The Journal of Sex Research|volume=38|pages=159–169|via=
  2. encyclopedia|title=Celibacy|encyclopedia=The Wiley Blackwell Encyclopedia of Family Studies|publisher=John Wiley & Sons|date=February 29, 2016|editor-last=Shehan|editor-first=Constance L.|volume=1|page=238|isbn=9780470658451
  3. Carpenter, Laura M. (2010). “Gendered Sexuality Over the Life Course: A Conceptual Framework”. Sociological Perspectives. University of California Press. 53 (2): 155–178. doi:10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155. JSTOR 10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155
  4. Harvey, John H.; Wenzel, Amy; Sprecher, Susan, eds. (2004). The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships. Mahwah, New Jersey: Taylor & Francis. p. 900. ISBN 9781135624699. Retrieved 2015-12-30.
  5. Strong, Bryan; Cohen, Theodore (2013). The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society. Belmont, California: Cengage Learning. p. 50. ISBN 1133597467. Retrieved 2015-12-30.
  6. journal|A life course analysis|url=http://cda.morris.umn.edu/~meeklesr/celibacy.html%7Cjournal=The Journal of Sex Research|volume=38|pages=159–169|via=
  7. encyclopedia|title=Celibacy|encyclopedia=The Wiley Blackwell Encyclopedia of Family Studies|publisher=John Wiley & Sons|date=February 29, 2016|editor-last=Shehan|editor-first=Constance L.|volume=1|page=238|isbn=9780470658451
  8. Carpenter, Laura M. (2010). “Gendered Sexuality Over the Life Course: A Conceptual Framework”. Sociological Perspectives. University of California Press. 53 (2): 155–178. doi:10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155. JSTOR 10.1525/sop.2010.53.2.155
  9. Harvey, John H.; Wenzel, Amy; Sprecher, Susan, eds. (2004). The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships. Mahwah, New Jersey: Taylor & Francis. p. 900. ISBN 9781135624699. Retrieved 2015-12-30.
  10. Strong, Bryan; Cohen, Theodore (2013). The Marriage and Family Experience: Intimate Relationships in a Changing Society. Belmont, California: Cengage Learning. p. 50. ISBN 1133597467. Retrieved 2015-12-30.
  11. https://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/723323/Sexual-partner-fertility-disability-World-Health-Organisation-IVF
  12. https://web.archive.org/web/20170503151557/https://www.nytimes.com/1992/08/04/news/04iht-sex_.html
  13. http://web.archive.org/web/20170622044005/https://abcnews.go.com/Health/Sex/story?id=3932047
  14. https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/78bmza/the-cost-of-losing-your-virginity-late
  15. https://www.reddit.com/r/Braincels/comments/8mhyo7/results_of_the_rbraincels_race_poll
  16. https://incels.co/threads/survey-results-for-may-2019.123987/#lg=_xfUid-1-1561817076&slide=0
  17. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheoryOfReddit/comments/3dct7x/why_is_reddit_so_white/
  18. “In general, we found that both male and female faces which were closer to the average and more feminine in shape were regarded as more attractive, while fluctuating asymmetry had no effect” https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371%2Fjournal.pone.0225549
  19. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3002115/#!po=30.4878
  20. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/330072834_Do_certain_personality_traits_provide_a_mating_market_competitive_advantage_Sex_offspring_the_big_5/citation/download
  21. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0362331918301472

See Also[edit]

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