Nice guys have better relationships
In the most comprehensive study to date, researchers associated with Michigan State University’s Close Relationships Lab found that dating apps fail with compatibility because they try to focus on qualities other than being nice.
William J. Chopik and Richard E. Lucas studied many dimensions of personality traits within relationships. They found that having a partner who is nice resulted in greater relationship satisfaction. However, having a partner that is not nice or neurotic resulted in lower relationship satisfaction.
- William C, Richard L. Actor, partner, and similarity effects of personality on global and experienced well-being
Personality matters for reproduction, stable extroverts have more children
Dr Whyte gathered data from the online Australian Sex Survey of 2016 to determine who has sex and who doesn’t. Turns out, staying in your basement finding cherry picked studies about how looks matter does not correlate to mating success. Dr Whyte found that instead, agreeableness and extroversion is more correlated with sexual success than introversion and combativeness.
“”For both men and women, extraversion equated to greater sexual frequency.
- Whyte S, Brooks R, Chan H, Torgler B. 2019. Do certain personality traits provide a mating market competitive advantage? Sex, offspring & the big 5
Proponents often justify a bunk theory that the sexual revolution caused incels by stating the sexual revolution has caused women to marry above their social class more than before the sexual revolution. This is probably false.
For example, according to a study by the Bonn Institute for the Study of Labor, since the 1960s, people have generally married more, not less, within their class.
This does not mean women aren't hypergamous, it also does not mean that hypergamy doesn't cause inceldom, but it does mean that the sexual revolution contributed less to hypergamy than blackpillers think. It is likely hypergamy was always a problem for incels, and the sexual revolution is not to blame for hypergamy existing. It is possible that the sexual revolution increased inceldom for those over 30 due to women marrying less, however women choose not to marry for reasons other than pool of available men. The onus is on blackpillers to prove that the sexual revolution increased female hypergamy, due to the burden of proof.
- Jeremy Greenwood, Nezih Guner, Georgi Kocharkov, Cezar Santos. 2014. Marry Your Like: Assortative Mating and Income Inequality
Most of the time women prefer average, not super manly faces
Researchers Penton-Voak Ph.D. and Perrett Ph.D. conducted a study in which they manipulated computer generated composite faces of men and showed them to women. They adjusted for sexual dimorphism, creating faces with big defined jaws, and ones with more feminine jaws. Turned out the ones that were most attractive to women were not the most manly to women not ovulating.
The researchers found that when women were not ovulating, they preferred average male faces. And given your average and admirable local slut is on birth control, that means that she too will prefer men with average faces, not super masculine faces.
- Penton-Voak I.S. Ph.D., Perrett D.I Ph.D. Female preference for male faces changes cyclically: Further evidence
Bergstrand & Williams (2001) did an extensive study of swingers for the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality. In their study of thousands of swingers, they found that marriages that could be characterized as “open marriages”, were more satisfied marriages than the general population.
In their study Bergstrand & Williams found that 78.5% of swingers reported being very happy with their relationship, while only 64% of the general married population said the same.
Also, 62.6% of swingers swingers reported that swinging improved their relationship, and only 1.7% reported being less happy.
“”Swinging tends to improve the perceived quality of the couples' marriages regardless of how satisfying it was before swinging
|—Bergstrand & Williams|
The swinging respondents who showed this big increase in happiness were primarily male, meaning swinging is not anti-male.
- Bergstrand, C., & Williams, J. B. (2000, October 10). Today's alternative marriage styles: The case of swingers. Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality
- Susan B. Pugliese (2019), It and Them: Self-Esteem in Swing Lifestyle and Swingers. Department of Social Sciences of Kaiser University
Many memes in the incelosphere portray a male wife-sharer as weak, effeminate, and not confident. Science differs on the subject. For example a large study published in The Social Science Journal found that wife-sharers actually have higher self-esteem than non-wife-sharers. They also mentioned the broader scientific literature.
“”Utilizing the Rosenburg self-esteem scale, the self-esteem of swingers was quantified and compared to the general sample. Consistent with qualitative research on the phenomenon, swingers do appear to have high self-esteem.
- Amanda R., Marissa H. Swinging high or low? Measuring self-esteem in swingers
The vast majority of extremely slutty women are happy
This is false.
The best data on female promiscuity and happiness comes from General Social Survey (GSS) data interpreted by the Institute for Family Studies. In their analysis of GSS data, 84% of the most promiscuous 5% of women polled were happy. Even though there is a 5% greater prevalence of unhappy individuals who are extremely promiscuous than the rest of women, the vast majority of the most extremely promiscuous women are happy.
- Nicholas H. Wolfinger Promiscuous America: Smart, Secular, and Somewhat Less Happy
Having children makes women slightly more unhappy
Again, we can look to General Social Survey data (GSS), to find out if this is true. And it’s not.
“”For women, having kids is associated with a 3 or 4 percentage point decline in happiness that’s marginally significant (p < .10).
- Nicholas H. Wolfinger Does Having Children Make People Happier in the Long Run?